1. OPPOSITES MAY ATTRACT BUT VALUES CANNOT BE COMPROMISED.
Men, much more so than women, do not change. Change takes a lot of dedication and sacrifice and most people, particularly men, are unwilling to put in the effort. No, your love will not change him. You should have learned that lesson long ago with your ex boyfriend! If you want children, but your man does not, it will never work out. If you are the type to save money and your man is a spendthrift, you will have a lot of tension financially. If you enjoy outdoor activities, but your man is more of a homebody, you will grow very bored of him. These are basic examples of what I am trying to get across, because it goes way deeper… If you see yourself as a modern woman and want a man who you feel is an equal, you will have constant fights with a man who is old fashioned, conservative, and idealistic. You will constantly upset him over your “domineering and controlling” ideas of equality, sharing of responsibilities, and he will upset you because he won’t be happy. He wants you to fill a support role in the relationship. Did I lose you on that one? Don’t worry about it. It’s my job to understand these things and find you a match. Not you, right?.
2. CHEMISTRY AND LONG TERM COMPATIBILITY ARE NOT THE SAME THING.
A skilled matchmaker must balance attraction with long term compatibility. Just because you feel like you are in love with someone when you first meet them doesn’t mean you won’t be tearing your hair out after 6 months with him. Oftentimes what we respond to sexually is not what is good for us in the long run. It’s kind of like eating a double fudge chocolate chip cookie cake. It looks, smells, feels and tastes so good… but if you ate it every day, it will kill you.
3. YOU NEED TO BE YOUR BEST, CONFIDENT, HONEST, OPEN SELF WHEN YOU MEET YOUR MATCH OR YOU WILL LOSE HIM FOREVER.
Oftentimes, when a woman meets a man she likes, she feels she has to play games or behave according to some rules she read in a magazine or book. This immediately puts men off, and just as quickly, removes you from the potential girlfriend category in his mind.